Don’t Lie To Yourself

Is your “type” the type who’s emotionally unavailable? Do you find her scally ways irresistible? Is it hard for you to deny a girl with a scally lifestyle? If you find yourself repeatedly attracted to a Ms. Right who’s all wrong for you, it could be more than just bad luck.
Maybe you’re dating the wrong girls so you can avoid making a commitment. Perhaps you’re picking poorly so you have an excuse to break up with her before she can break up with you. Or could it be that you enjoy the drama or attention that comes from perpetual heartbreak?
Whatever your reason, you’ve gotten into a pattern. Now that you’ve admitted it, you have to decide if you want to continue keeping true love at arm’s length, or if you want to embrace your issues and start having fun with them.

Step 1: Open your eyes
Start changing your patterns by being honest with yourself about what really motivates you. “Be explicit about what you really need”! For instance, think about why you’re dating: Is it for fun, to have a diversion or are you looking for a long-term relationship? Do you love the thrill of the hunt, or do you prefer being hunted? Do you ignore red flags because you want to keep the relationship going? Being clear on these points is crucial.
If you’re looking for love but you date women who are just in it for fun, you’ve got a problem. If you like being pursued but make the first move to help it along, you may end up attracting someone who prefers to be pursued, too.
And if you try to keep relationships going when they’d be better off ending, you’re wasting your time. A relationship’s not worth saving if it drives you nuts or pushes your buttons!
Don’t be addicted to “hurt“!

Step #2: Look in the mirror
Next, the key to learning from your past is to review what worked and what didn’t in your relationships. Don’t beat yourself up about it, though. Instead, be glad you’ve got things figured out and then get busy changing your negative behaviors.
Undertaking this kind of self-improvement can be tough to do alone. Friends and family might be able to assist you.
I had a buddy system with my friend Al, I gave him permission to call me out when I was falling back into my weak behaviors. It really helped having someone calling me on it.
Every “Maverick” needs a Goose!

Step #3: Love yourself
Maybe the ultimate habit-breaker is learning to like yourself exactly as you are. So often, we’re focused on having the other person like us, so we put on a façade that keeps us from being ourselves. Instead, try being realistic. Don’t be afraid to say, ‘This is who I am — take it or leave it.’”
If they leave, that scally probably had lame sex anyways!